Depression isn’t a problem that can be solved instantly, it’s something much more complex and incomprehensible. Earlier we did a story on ’10 Things You Shouldn’t Say To A Person Suffering From Depression’, this post brought to notice a lot of queries that our readers had about depression. While some agreed to it, there were some who at one point had unintentionally spoken in a similar manner to their friends suffering from depression. Moreover, there were a lot of queries that surfaced regarding things that one should say to help a depressed person.
So here we are with a list of things that you should say to your friends or family members suffering from depression.
1. I Can’t Fully Understand What You Are Going Through, But I Know It Must Be Hard To Deal With
No one can fully understand the feelings that a depressed person might be going through, so it’s no point telling them that you know how they feel because you don’t. You should rather show compassion towards them and tell them that you still want to help them despite your little knowledge about depression.
2. What Kind Of Thoughts Are Bothering You
Showing concern isn’t enough if you want to truly help them out. You need to find out what kinds of thoughts are troubling them, whether they are having any suicidal tendencies or not. Initially, they might hesitate but once they know that you care for them, they would confide in you about their feelings.
3. This Is Not Your Fault If Things Aren’t Working Out
When a person is depressed, he not only feels dejected but also thinks that whatever is going wrong it’s because of him. Accountability is one thing but blaming themselves will only push them deeper in the pothole of depression. You as a friend or family member need to pull him out of this feeling by assuring them that it’s not their fault and that it’s totally fine to make mistakes.
4. Did I Ever Tell You That I Like This Quality Of Yours
When a person is depressed, his self-esteem is the first thing that hits rock bottom. At this time, you should point out their virtues and strengths that make them a great person. Listening to their own good qualities will give them hope and courage to fight with depression. However, don’t go overboard with fake praises; give them genuine reasons why you like them.
5. Don’t Hesitate From Calling Me Or Reaching Out To Me, Even If It’s Midnight
No matter how close you are with him or her, there will always be some sort of hesitation in terms of reaching out to you to share their problems, especially when they need you at odd hours. So you have to constantly reassure them that you are only a call or text away and no matter what they SHOULD talk to you. It won’t be easy since they would be in a constant denial but you have to be stubborn as well.
6. No Matter How Much You Push Me Away, I Am Not Leaving You
When we say talking to them won’t be easy, don’t forget the times when they would slam the doors on your face or start ignoring you. At that time, you will have to suck up your pride and be firm to tell them that you are not leaving their side, come what may. Your efforts will make them realize that you have their back and they will be more comfortable around you.
7. Do You Want To Go Out Somewhere, For A Walk Maybe
When a person is depressed, he often breaks all ties with the outside world and finds his home to be his last resort. On some days you can stay with them at their home, but try to take them outside, maybe to some calm or serene place or a leisure walk to the park. Rejuvenating the mind is essential. But make sure that you are not commanding but asking them to accompany you.
8. You Can’t Lose Hope Like This, There Must Be Some Way So Let’s Find That Together
When you ask them to fight, they get hope but when you assure them that you will be there to deal with this and find solutions together, they get the confidence to deal with depression. When they realize that they are not alone in their struggle with depression, they feel more confident and get more courage to face it.
9. You Might Not Believe Me Now, But You Will Overcome This And We Will Together Enjoy Your Victory
Nothing can be more assuring than the fact that there is someone who is not only genuinely concerned about us but also believes in us. In fact, your mere words can lift their spirits up to an extent where they feel lighter and are filled with courage at the same time. This will act as a silver lining for them.
10. I Am Always There For You
Somewhere probably even they know that you are there, but there is no harm in reminding them time and again that you will always stay by their side and that they can count on you for any and every problem they are going through no matter how big or small it is. There are days when you don’t need words to make them realize that you care for them and are always by their side. You simply sit next to them, hold their hands and ask them to cry or scream their hearts out. But sometimes all you can really do is tell them how you feel for them and let them know that you will always have their back.