Whenever one hears abusive relationship, they instantly picturize physical abuse and torture; however, there is also something called ‘emotional abuse’ which is equally painful but often gets unnoticed. At times, the ones who are suffering from emotional abuse ignore it owing to insufficient knowledge about it.
Emotional abuse not only affects your self-esteem but also puts your mental health to test and compels you to doubt your own identity. However, what’s worse is the fact that people discern abuse to be gender-specific. However, both men and women face emotional abuse and manipulation that leaves their hearts crushed from inside.If you have been feeling derailed of late in your relationship, thinking that something is wrong and the reason is you, here are some warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship that you need to see before you start blaming yourself for everything.
1. They Constantly Criticize You In Public And Personally
There is nothing wrong in making fun of someone casually once in a while. But if your girl constantly criticizes you in front of everyone, tries to put you down or insult you for everything you do, it’s a warning sign of emotional abuse. When you try to defend yourself, she will shun you for being ‘too sensitive’ and incapable of taking jokes.
2. You Always Feel Guilty In Your Relationship
Have you ever noticed that how you are the only one in your relationship who always feels guilty for anything that goes wrong, even when it’s not your fault? It’s because she is manipulating you to feel that guilt. After some point, you even start feeling guilty for meeting your friends because you think that you are doing something wrong.
3. She Will Isolate You From Everyone
Like we said earlier, do you feel bad when you spend time with your friends and family in the absence of your girlfriend? If your answer is yes, then consider it as a red flag for your relationship. She is not only making you guilt-ridden, but she is also trying to isolate you from your loved ones. Phrases like “I am not important for you at all”, or “You don’t love me” double up with time.
4. Your Partner Can Play The Blame Game Too Well
If your girlfriend is abusing you emotionally, chances are that she will be very moody and would blame you for her mood swings. She would soon start blaming you for her personal issues as well and might criticize you for ruining her life. Since they cannot deal with their issues responsibly, they find you as an easy to bait to get rid of that remorse.
5. She Starts Micro-Controlling You
One of the biggest warning signs is when she forces you to take decisions with her consultation. It wouldn’t come as a surprise if she starts controlling your finances and how and where you should spend your money. There is nothing wrong in giving financial suggestions, but if she expects you to get her permission before every purchase, then there is definitely something fishy.
6. She Does Not Give A F*ck About Your Life Or Your Emotions
In any relationship, showing compassion towards each other is really important. But if she is an emotional abuser she would never respect you, let alone have empathy. If you ever try to confront her, she would outright deny it accusing you of thinking too much. She would constantly play with your emotions irrespective of whether you like it or not.
7. She Makes You Feel As If You Are Just Another Option
Time and again she will remind you of the countless men running after her and craving for her attention. She will treat you as someone who is just another option for her and it’s your responsibility to satisfy her, else she would go for someone else.
8. She Threatens You Of Hurting Herself
The moment she feels that you are about to break up with her, she will threaten you that if you leave her, she would kill or harm herself. She tries to inflict this fear in you so that you never leave her side. You shouldn’t fall prey to it, rather talk to someone close to her or seek help from a counselor, but do not continue the relationship if you feel that you have had enough.